Ok, so I'm going to mention something here that maybe I shouldn't....I don't know. Hopefully it doesn't come out as sounding ungracious. I don't mean it that way. Maybe it's because I AM hugely pregnant, or maybe a tad emotional. Whatever the reason is, I am wondering why people feel the need to point out the fact that I am so big...or to put it in the words of most, "That baby is getting really big"? Now, if you are reading this and you have said something like that too me, please understand I am NOT offended. I find if somewhat amusing. Although I have to say I am starting to feel a little self conscious, and not wanting to leave the house until the baby is born because of the attention I tend to draw to myself! :) I don't mind talking about the baby or my pregnancy, but please don't bring up how BIG I am! :)
It's mostly older woman who say something to me. I am wondering if maybe you forget over the years that that is not really what you want to hear just days or weeks before you are supposed to give birth. :)
Note to self...choose your words wisely around pregnant woman. :)
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You pegged it pretty good as far as my grandma is concerned- she said they didn't leave home in the weeks before arrival. Another thing my grandma so graciously said to me when I first found out I was prego with W was that 'in her days the doctors scolded women for gaining over 15 lbs. So she only gained between 8-12 with hers'. She thinks it was terribly unhealthy and full of pressure but she still sternly told me to 'watch it good Girlie!'...LoL. I personally think women look bigger because the baby is preciously being nuzzled by God out of the deep recesses of you and is beginning it's grand descent! Such a miraculous event! Enjoy it ALL you can and when sopmeone tells you you look bigger you can always return the compliment ;)jk
we're anxiously awaiting this girle too!!! Post pictures as soon as you can PLEASE!!!
~deb~
OH sweet friend...I understand your pain...even though women have had children of their own, they can be the MOST hurtful, doesn't really make sense, does it!!!
I will pray for you, that you will FOCUS on the JOY of this baby and not silly words from others, though I know they hurt...I am so sorry...because of what others have said to me during my pregnancies, I can so relate, a lot for me has been about HOW many kiddos we are having...we are SOOOOOO very blessed and I want to shout it from the rooftops, but for lack of safety there :) I will just try to encourage you and have a HUGE smile on my face as my belly starts to expand also...
LOVE you,
Liz
Oh, I hear you! Comments about appearance anytime during pregnancy should be a no no!
And see, It never bothered me. I just knew that I was doing what I needed to do to "care" for my Baby. When people said I was getting big, I just think they are refering to the baby.
Anonymous,
I know what you are saying. I am sure that when people make reference to how big I am getting they really ARE talking about the baby. It is a conversation piece. It's like stating the obvious. Like I said I am NOT offended. I have LOVED every minute of this pregnancy. It has been such a joy. I have tired to take good care of myself and nurture my baby as best I could. I really don't feel bad about the weight that I have gained. That being said, It just doesn't change the fact that it's still not something I really want to hear right now. I don't know why. :)
I'm glad that you are not bothered by what others say to you...that is wonderful. For the most part I am not either, but it is still something that I need to work on I guess.
Thanks for your thoughts. Btw, I would love to know who you are! ;)
I totally understand! I remember a man from our church asking me when I was ready to pop, when I still had 3 months to go! I got "Big" comments alot too being prego. A month before I had Jacob, one of Andy's great Aunt's told me that 'maybe I will just stay big after I have Jacob'. I couldn't believe she said that to me! It didn't make me feel very good! I never got offended, but just couldn't believe the things people said sometimes :) I can't wait to see pictures of your new baby!! Post them as soon as possible ;)
Just goes to show how often people speak before they think. Wow. I hope I've never said this to a pregnant woman! :) The other good one is "are you pregnant?" when you're not! I've had that already, a little while after I had Jacob!
Hang in there girl. It won't be long now! We are all so excited to meet her!
Awww....you are soo beautiful pregnant and glowing...I love seeing you pregnant. However I too had that problem, and yes with older women....why, why, why do they do this to us??? I really do think sometimes though it is just to start conversation...but who know's???
I miss you though...we need to get together soon ;)
I'm surprised anybody has even said that to you. I look at you and think the opposite. You are so small! You are all baby! You look beautiful pregnant! You are very lucky to have the body you have! I bet a lot of people just say it to make conversation... so, the baby is getting bigger I see...
but of course the baby is getting bigger, it is growing!
Just remember you are such a beautiful pregnant lady! I think anybody would agree with me!
But pretty soon you wont have that little basketball belly anymore :)
I love you Elizabeth!
My son Noah calls me "Big mama" what could be worse than that;)lol-he really does!
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